# I Can't Control My Sexual Desires! - 5 Ultimate Solutions

- Language: en
- Published: 2026-08-26
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- Source video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRQP_k17Ztc
- Channel: Towards Eternity

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inshallah if someone has the habit of masturbation after watching this he will say thank you i'm cured inshallah this presentation will provide that cure i carried out extensive research many hours of exploration it's too easy to say it's haram don't do it masturbation is complex with psychological as well as scientific evidence which shows us where this habit can lead people you'll be astonished when you hear this one day we got an email that said i have a masturbation addiction i can't stop watching porn so we decided to take action we made this video at the end of this presentation you'll be provided with two ways to get rid of this habit so listen carefully someday you're going to get married right you'll have a wife and kids your children might just have their own struggle with masturbation and ask their parent it's your job to help them to stop so we need to be ready to face this issue it doesn't matter whether you're an atheist a muslim or a christian everyone regrets doing this pornography is a global industry you'll be shocked when you hear the statistics my friends it's hard to believe but in america these porn sites are legal pornography is perfectly normal there have a guess how many porn sites there were in america by 2014.

there were 4.5 million porn websites back in 2014 i'm not talking about individual photos or videos i mean there were 4.5 million websites each with multiple images or videos and incredibly 12 percent of all websites are pornographic sites over one in ten websites some say that the true figure is over thirty percent almost one in three over thirty five percent of all internet data downloaded is portographic it's endemic 30 percent of data circulation on the net is porn the world is awash with porn it's found in media from billboards and print media to phones and computers and you might ask yourself what's the harm in porn some might say that this act masturbation is enjoyable and maybe that's true but i promise you that the end result is very unpleasant how about when it's over all creeds and atheists feel exactly the same everyone absolutely everyone has negative feelings regret shame self-loathing lack of motivation and lethargy for the unlucky ones that have become addicted to this act these negative emotions deepen into depression can you be happy and depressed no you lose the joy of living when you are depressed the symptoms of depression are laziness low motivation tiredness and guilt i also read an article which claimed that masturbation causes hair loss think about that masturbation can be the source of other problems some are hereditary some aren't it can inhibit the secretion of testosterone the male hormone there are claims that masturbation can cause groin pain so ask yourself brother do i want to risk suffering any of these ailments for just a few moments of pleasure there are claims that addiction to masturbation can cause memory loss imagine losing your precious memories this story will shock you a young hafez comes to vedio zaman so of course he has memorized the quran the hafiz complains that he's losing his memory i'm forgetting things what is the most important ability to a hafiz memory right yes of course he needs this skill to memorize the quran vadir zaman says keep away from looking at that which is hara the advice for curing forgetfulness is keep away from looking at hara as imam shafi said looking at haram causes forgetfulness so what happens if we look at haram we lose our memory yes as haram increases in a muslim passionate urges are excited and one can misuse and become wasteful with his body when you look at haram you develop sensual feelings try to stay away from it for a month you will think less of it even if you don't look at haram intentionally you still see it and it's recorded in your subconscious one can misuse and become wasteful with his body this is masturbation it will become compulsory to perform hustle a few times a week due to it their memory will be damaged friends our prophet peace be upon him says in the end of time the quran will be pulled out from the chests of the hafiz it will be forgotten our prophet peace be upon him talks about the hafiz struggling in the end of times isn't this a fine sign a clear warning being given to us fourteen hundred years later let's talk about the other negative effects of masturbation loss of self-confidence low motivation low energy this isn't a scientific fact porn and masturbation cause a sudden surge in dopamine and kill the receptors this damage to receptors relates to the secreting of dopamine the hormone of happiness these dopamine receptors are damaged after the surge and become blunted a person then loses interest in other pleasures and starts to seek pleasure and masturbation alone let's talk about the lowest form of depravity i'm ashamed to even tell you i've heard about the involvement of children and animals in porn let's examine what leads people to engage with such things i found some shocking evidence those who masturbate are more likely to have premature ejaculation problems in their marriage which of course means that the man then can't satisfy his wife this frustration can push her to seek new adventures for many men impotency can cause mental trauma i will spare you the ugly details do you know what happens to someone who watches porn videos all the time after constantly watching porn videos of models he loses desire for his wife he begins to compare her to the girls in the videos his idea of beauty is twisted by exposure to artificial porn images of models he loses interest in his wife and the family begins to fall apart what's the cornerstone of a strong marriage it's trust isn't it when a marriage weakens the husband starts watching porn secretly sisters message us complaining that their husbands watch porn videos they can't tolerate them looking at other women can you imagine how they feel seeing their husbands watching such videos the sisters whose husbands do this start to think they aren't beautiful they feel unloved betrayed and deceived the destruction of dopamine receptors caused by masturbation makes people want more if someone has a habit of watching erotic videos they eventually get unsatisfied with it they want more and more more nudity in higher definition he looks for hd images his appetite for quality images increases after a while he feels unsatisfied his tastes diversifies he seeks new thrills do you understand what kind of people watch child porn how shameful are they who films those disgusting animal porn videos ask yourselves incredibly these people were once children they were once pure and innocent but our decisions shape our life some people follow human instincts and some animality as you become more and more depraved nobody warns you you are becoming a pervert each video drags you deeper into harams put the haram dimension aside let's think about the women in the videos they're somebody's wife sister or even mother think about it let your conscience become uncomfortable how can i do such a thing while looking at somebody's mother wouldn't you go crazy if something similar happened to your sister thousands of men watching your sister doing terrible things so please show some decency do you understand my friends you may find the next topic disgusting some of you might feel physically sick researching this issue made me ill this child porn topic disgusts me do you know how many child porn images are uploaded every week an average of 480 769 photos are uploaded to the net every single week according to a canadian company statistics 63.4 of children involved in such images are under 8 years old it's disgusting right you might say god forbid this is just the tip of the iceberg because many children involved in pornography can't tell anyone these are very serious problems this huge volume of uploads of child porn photos and videos are proof that there's a demand for them if there were no demand if there were no clicks these images wouldn't have existed the title of the image says children under 8 years old there's a demand it's being watched so what can we say about this awful child pornography my brothers if you don't take control and get rid of these habits you don't know where it will end it's leading to bestiality do you understand me now what can we do to stop this disease how can we get rid of it first let's talk about what we can physically do number one you will destroy all pornographic materials delete or destroy any dvds usb sticks newspapers magazines etc use a filter for your search engines such as google don't use the excuse vpn overrides filters anything that slows you might help to stop you number two take up sports engage in sports find an activity that'll keep you busy number three try to never be alone at home it's recommended to always use the computer screen while facing others never alone don't underrate these little steps strong ropes are made of thin strings number four try having a cold shower a cold shower especially to the genital area helps to get rid of lustful feelings i heard from a number of sources that cold showers work members of the no fap community take cold showers regularly number five some people suggest getting married as a solution some people disagree with this idea if someone reaches a certain level of perversion marriage won't be a solution but marriage can be a solution to a certain extent men who haven't become fully depraved will be more interested in intercourse with their wife rather than in satisfying themselves there's also a risk that someone who watches lots of porn might have delusional expectations of their spouse marriage unlike masturbation has the benefit of an emotional bond hearts become connected if you marry someone you really love that heartfelt bond that emotional connection can help to keep you away from masturbation it'll keep your heart and mind safe and to those who say i can't stop what can i do don't worry number six be patient wait until you get married this will also strengthen your patience the struggle won't last forever you'll be okay after marriage when you're 70 80 years old you won't be able to masturbate even if you want to badio zaman underlines another reality boredom is the teacher of pleasure seeking just a few words but very deep you could write an academic paper on it boredom is said to be the teacher of all sins just remember your puberty when would you masturbate when you were born right you're bored there's nothing to do suddenly you find yourself watching porn but if you're busy or active you're less likely to masturbate right that means we shouldn't get bored number seven take up a hobby if you don't have one if you have nothing to do and you're alone it's inevitable that you will take a wrong path learn to play the guitar or the tambourine busy yourself with photography or if you have money go on a world tour fill your spare time with hobbies if you don't keep yourself busy satan will i also want to add satan can't direct you by telling you to go kill everyone in the mall this idea sounds insane and will be discredited by you but in the same way you must also refuse masturbation that is the purpose of this talk what i'm doing is creating a perception of masturbation i'm discrediting masturbation it's a dirty habit only practiced by losers it's unsuitable for anyone let alone a muslim man how can you do this stopping masturbation is just like giving up smoking train your mind to degrade the very idea of masturbation tarnishing the thought of it will provide a long-term solution to the habit if we have a high spiritual motivation satan can't direct you towards sexual thoughts the solution is to strengthen our faith and to be aware that allah is always present and watching this is the permanent solution to this my brothers keep busy with study you should read the quran such as it'll strengthen your faith some might object brother don't i have faith am i a disbeliever my brother even if there's such a thing i'm not the one to judge but we might be weak in faith right or you may be stronger in faith there's three levels in faith one knowing by information two knowing by seeing three knowing by feeling madison writes in one of his treatises if you see a smoke rising behind a mountain you understand that there is a fire behind the mountain first step in faith knowing by information you didn't see but you knew i climbed to the top of the mountain looked down and saw the fire seeing with eyes an upper level in faith i saw the fire with my eyes i got closer i touched it with my hands i felt the fire this is a metaphor for the highest level in faith believing in allah by knowledge believing as if you are seeing him believing as though you are feeling him where do we stand are we at the imitating level of faith unfortunately most people are what is confirmed faith is to accept the existence of allah with proof and knowledge as you all know these harams are everywhere you witnessed many harams until you got here you're trying hard we live in end of times you love our prophet peace be upon him very much you perform your prayers but sometimes you give in to your desires if you feel regret be sure that it comes from your faith brother this is the evidence of your faith regardless of the level sometimes you slip and fall sometimes fight you're trying to win we must win the fight otherwise this will lead us to an undesirable end you are destroying your pleasantness be careful tread with caution be frightened of sinking do not drown in a mouthful a word a seed a flash a sign a kiss you have some extensive spiritual faculties that get blunt when committing a sin we all have the same excuses one day i'll start praying one day if we continue to enter our hearts we won't find the strength or will to act when the day comes our prophet peace be upon him said every sin is a spot that turns the heart black didn't he warn us until it makes the light of faith leave the heart but if you repent please allah avoid sins and say enough i can do it i can give it up there's a punishment and many negative effects both scientific and psychological why shouldn't i give it up even next to my dad i change the channel when something inappropriate appears when i'm alone without my father my lord still sees me the angels see me how will i appear before the messenger of allah peace be upon him my friends if you see haram on the street you must lower your gaze bow your heads and count your steps keep your heads down until you've passed the haram on the day of resurrection when you raise your heads you'll see the messenger of allah peace be upon him just like a seed it goes underground and it comes out a green blossom just like that my brothers we'll go under the ground too then we will blossom to a new life in paradise inshallah is it possible that allah who preserves the lives of flowers would leave his most valuable creations underground and let them disappear is it possible no like flowers will open our eyes to a new world you'll see paradise and all its beauties you'll be happy to be saved you fought with yourself until you get married protect yourself you fought hard and the battle is over you passed the test paradise is awaiting you the best thing is you avoided hell and you will find yourself before allah's messenger peace be upon him you will embrace him i fought hard i fell i repented but i'm here with you oh messenger of allah peace be upon him you sit at the same table as him it's over the test is over the calamity is over the trouble is over the distress is over better than all of these you will see allah the almighty a hadith says living happily in the world for a thousand years can't equal an hour of life in paradise living in paradise for a thousand years can't equal seeing allah for an hour imagine that pleasure living in paradise for a year can't equal seeing allah for an hour think there is a god who created you he treated you with compassion he sent you sustenance he equipped your mother with compassion she took you under her wings the best you appear before your lord the more he shows his love there is no point in staying away from these blessings is it so hard allah promises to give thirty thousand rewards for one good deed on lala right it's thirty thousand rewards for one in la don't you understand allah wishes to take you to paradise allah doesn't say there are sins commit sins and i will throw you to hell allah is always willing to forgive your sins we'll open our hands to our lord and repent if we have a habit of masturbation we will promise ourselves it's finished it's over and that will be the end of that we should say bismillah and take a step forward repent you might find it difficult to stay away from this habit if you're a teenager don't say it is what it is say i'm performing my prayers inshallah i will get rid of that habit doesn't allah say prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing if you stay steadfast upon prayer all the troubles in your life will disappear do you get it we reject thee it is what it is mentality buddhism says sin does not show disbelief we know that everyone can sin except the prophets right valiullah's can also sin does it make them disbelievers no sometimes a faithful person can commit a sin in a moment of ignorance when this happens it's important to feel regret and repent if you don't have these feelings after sinning there's a serious problem may allah protect us why did we gather here to keep our faith firm we back each other up we try to do our best inshallah allah will gather us together in paradise exactly as today